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Most experts who write about the causes of depression usually provide a list with the following items:

• Marital or relationship problems
• Recent stressful life experiences
• Early childhood trauma or abuse
• Financial strain
• Family history of depression
• Alcohol or drug abuse
• Loneliness
• Health problems or chronic pain
• Unemployment or underemployment
• Lack of social support

Too bad they get it all wrong. These various stress factors have been a part of many people’s lives and they never got depressed over them. The factors above can certainly create a more difficult life, at least temporarily, but not depression.

Now of course, childhood abuse and some of those other factors certainly don’t help you live a healthy life. But they don’t really make you depressed by themselves.

I did receive any medical training. I am not a doctor. However, I did deal with some heavy-duty depression. For decades. I knocked out my depression for good, and I can show you how to end your depression just like me.

But first, let’s look at the real cause of depression.

You have a flow of emotion. It’s a flow of raw thought and feeling. (An emotion could be defined as a package of feelings and thoughts mixed together.)

From this raw energy we think our thoughts and feel our feelings. However – we’ve been taught, practically since birth, that feelings are bad and wrong and you shouldn’t have them. It’s okay to think, we’re taught, but we shouldn’t feel or even have feelings.

Or at least keep the feelings under control. Don’t feel too much. And just don’t feel with intensity.

, we simply try to close down the ‘bad’ feelings – the distressing ones.

“Big boys don’t cry.”

“Good girls don’t get upset.”

However, that’s just the beginning.

You can’t really block out the feelings you don’t want to feel, while letting all the other ones through. All feelings travel through the same pathway. If you crimp a garden hose, it restricts the entire flow. And that’s what happens here.

All we want to do is block the bad feelings, but what happens is we restrict them all.

Emotions give you power. They’re the source of our aliveness. By blocking the feelings, you start to shut down. You keep feeling worse, but you don’t know why. You mistakenly believe feelings are creating the pain.

In reality, it’s not feeling the feelings that cause the pain. It is painful not to feel. It takes work, and effort. You’ve got to come up with all sorts of stories about your feelings.

The stories are like little structures that impede or block the flow of feelings. These structures end up being the exact cause of emotional pain in our lives.

Another point to keep in mind is that your heart wants to feel all your feelings. But its being denied. Because of your heart’s longing to feel, when the feelings are blocked off, that will also cause emotional pain.

So what’s really causing the depression here?

Depression is when you have a lack of your true feelings. As you keep blocking your feelings, it will eventually lead to depression. Unfortunately, we think our feelings are the source of the problem so we keep shutting them down more. Which only makes things worse. But in reality it’s the structures that block our feelings which become like little pain factories. Plus, it’s the absence of feelings in our heart.

The true cause of depression is the shutting down of our feelings – one step at a time – until we lose touch with the very aliveness our feelings bring. So technically, the loss of aliveness causes the depression.

Here’s what you want to keep in mind:

Your heart longs to feel! And it’s painful when you don’t let it. So the obvious solution is to start letting your heart do its job. To get all the details, visit this web page on the causes of depression.